Silver Threads Among The Gold

 It has been over 5 years ago now since I stopped coloring my hair! I have a natural mix of silver and blond. It has been very freeing!

Over a year ago I decided to stop coloring my hair, and embrace my grey natural look. I did hate this growing-in phase. I should have just bitten the bullet and cut my hair short at the beginning. But I believe longer hair is sexier and more feminine than short on me. I am also feeling proud of myself. I’m past the "one day at a time" phase, when I couldn’t stop thinking about my roots. Now it’s like watching bulbs peek out from under the winter snow:


Each season has its own romantic flavor. In the spring, it is flowers and blooming plants. In the summer, it is the beach, lake, sunshine, rainbows, and summer vacations. In the fall, it is fall colors. In the winter, it is the beauty of falling snow, an escape to a tropical resort and time together for the holidays. Certain weather events can bring out romantic feelings. Great weather combined with a feeling of romance can make us think of flowers, Valentine's Day, romantic love, and happy memories. Below are some of the common impressions from specific weather:

Warm and sunny: the urge to go outside and do thing outside with your lover 

RAINBOW : the colors of the prism show beauty and awe and can remind of the beauty of your lover.
Snow: each snowflake is its own work of crystal art and the way the flakes float through the air and drift around is a beauty of nature

Rain on roses: the wetting of roses bring out their softness, gloss, color and beauty 

Wind: can hear the noises created by wind, beautiful hair wafting in the wind

Weather can have an interesting influence on moods. Changes in sunlight, pressure, temperature and other factors can suddenly put the mind in a different frame. A storm event can suddenly put us in a different mood. We just seem to somehow feel different during different weather events. For example, if someone loves thunderstorms and snow storms they will get a special feeling of happiness when these events happen. It is simply a love for this type of weather! This love can rub off on those around us. Romance can flourish when our minds are happy and stimulated. 

Weather is one of those stimulants.
As the weather changes, think about the way you feel. You will discover all sorts of interesting connections between your moods and romance depending on the weather. If there is weather that makes you happy then enjoy it and if it is unhappy weather think about how great it will be when the happy weather comes back.

I’ll be Happy When…

How many time in your life do you read something and you think to yourself OMG that's me! That has happened to me many, many, time. Then there is that one story, that I could not have written any better myself.

This story is one of them and this is me over, and over.

Do you see yourself in this story? I do.

Many people spend their lives thinking "I'll be happy when …" (I finish school, get my degree, get a job/promotion, get married, own a house, kids leave home, retire).

They spend their lives in anticipation of the next stage, never really enjoying the process or the journey.
Do you put off being happy until this or that happens, or waiting for some special event to lift you temporarily, only to feel flat and depressed once the event is over?
Do you also put off spending time with your loved ones until everything has been done and the in-tray (actual and metaphorical) is empty? In the meantime, our family or friends may have lost interest or moved on, and it's too late to regain the time we might have spent with them while we were busy emptying the tray. Face the fact that the in-tray will never be empty, there's always going to be tasks to be completed. Decide to make time now for the people that are important to you. All your work will get done in due course.
The present moment is all we have. Many of us spend our time focusing on past difficulties or anticipating future events, and end up living in fear of what might happen. However, regardless of what might happen tomorrow or happened yesterday or even in the last hour, the present moment is where it's at! If we allow our thoughts to be dominated by past events or anticipation or worry about the future, we'll never be happy in the present moment, which is really all we have.
Often we will be in a certain place and wish we were somewhere else - on holidays, in a new home in a different area, at a different job. Then we will be happy! Actually, if you spend your time feeling frustrated, unhappy and wishing things were different, then that state of mind will follow wherever you go. The opposite is also true - if you refuse to spend your time being negative, angry, or frustrated, and focus on being happy in the present moment, then happiness will follow you wherever you are. You may well find that your positive energy attracts to you the places, people and circumstances that you desire.
Do something creative such as painting, writing a book, music, or cooking something new and enjoy what you are doing for its own sake, not the end result. Don't worry what other people will think of your efforts, just immerse yourself in the activity and get lost in the present moment. Becoming immersed in something which is not generally considered to be a fun activity, such as vacuuming or ironing, can also put a whole new perspective on the task. Enjoy the physical side of vacuuming or sweeping, using your muscles and getting exercise. Enjoy the look, feel and clean smell of clothes and pillowcases (not the sheets - I wouldn't go that far!) as they are ironed. There's an old Buddhist saying, "carry water, chop wood", meaning that if you undertaking these tasks, then focus on the task and become at peace with it, rather than thinking about something else or wishing you were somewhere else.
The Buddhist art of "Non-attachment" is a useful tool to helping us live in the present. If you are attached to people, places, things, and outcomes which don't co-operate with your expectations, then you will experience fear, conflict and other negative emotions. Learning to release or detach from people or outcomes frees our spirit.

I can only hope by sharing this story, that I can help one person live in the present moment!
 It did help me!

“My Husband My Friend”

Scott, Happy Anniversary, 37 years. Where has the time gone. For all those years we have worked together, laughed together, cried together and loved together. We have had many dreams together, and even a few swear words. Many people have said we were very different from one another.
“ They were reading the cover, not the book.”
One time I was asked why I married a man who never smiled.

I have always seen that big smile in your heart for me.


We have discovered that love means a whole lot more, than we know when we first got married. We have weathered change,acquired more patience, and learned to laugh when life doesn't turn out exactly as we planned.
Sharing everything that comes our way has given us something that most people never knew… and on our anniversary, I am looking forward to all the beautiful tomorrows we have yet to share.

 Our Wedding Day!

   37 years later

Beautiful Poem

          Have I
Have I ever told you?
That if I sit really still and silent,
sometimes, I like to think
I can hear your heart beating
In time with mine.

Have I ever told you?
that when I watch you speak to me
through lines and cords,
I imagine
your voice,
whispering into my ear.

Have I ever told you?
that I wait out each day
in anticipation,
only an hour or two,
just a second in space and time,
to feel close to you.

Have I ever told you?
that there has been times,
when I ached for you,
ached for you so badly,
that the emotions overwhelmed me..
and so I sat and cried.

Have I ever told you?
that sometimes,
I will reach out,
touching your name
on this cold screen before me,
I could reach in
and pull you to me.

Have I ever told you?
that after the first time I heard
the sound of your voice,
thousands of miles away,
I sat up all night,
turning the conversation over and over
in my mind,
examining it,
like some newly discovered species of flower.

Have I ever told you?
that I would give everything up,
just for one night
to be able to lay near you,
to feel your chest rise and fall
with each breath you take,
just to know that you are real.

Have I ever told you?
that I dream of you often,
I dream of you reaching out
and touching my hand,
simply to let me know
that you are there,
and everything is okay.

Have I ever told you?
That I love you!

Letting Go!

Right now, I believe I am standing in the classroom of my life. I believe everyone that has comes into my life has been sent, and every situation is here to teach me something.

The question then is what is this experience trying to teach me? Well, one clear lesson, in my opinion, is that this experience is here to teach me the importance of letting go.

Everything in life is temporary, learning to let go is a survival skill and one we all have to learn.
Letting go is having the courage to accept change, and the strength to keep moving.

Letting go is growing up.

I believe it is a gift to learn how to love and let go, and to learn the difference between needing someone and loving someone. It will be a gift to learn how to let go of the past and move forward, and a blessing.

Let go and learn that all things are working together for my good.
(Even the things that do not feel good).

What I do not know is how to love someone without wanting them.
When I master that skill then my soul will be free.
Will it be easy, No. will it be worth it, Yes

My exercise will be -  breath in hold… say to myself …LET  GO  - breath out

Real Love?

Real love cannot be explained, it can only be felt…but I will still try to define it somehow.
Love is the highest emotion there is, a deep feeling of belonging so much with someone that when you see her/him you feel at home…your heart is beating 100 times per second and you cannot explain it. You have a sensation that you know this person on Soul level, that your Soul knows her/him Soul, that your Heart knows her/him Heart.

Real love never ends; in fact, you never stop loving the person, even though you might not be physically together.

You feel each others moods, thoughts and emotions, even though you are apart.
Probably two people who have this feeling about each other have been together in many lifetimes before, not necessarily as a couple. I believe we change relationships with the same people, in order to learn different lessons.

However, love is not enough to keep a romantic relationship. There has to be respect, trust, intimacy, communication, sharing, and forgiveness…All of this is connected under the umbrella of love.
To be able to truly welcome love into our life we have to be strong, we need to have the fighter spirit. To keep a relationship flowing is hard work, every day. Nothing is free. However, the award is amazing. The award is Paradise on Earth, true happiness…

Many people never experience this overwhelming, overpowering sensation of losing yourself into deep love. To love with an open-heart means you have to open up totally to another person. This is scary, because you are vulnerable and might get hurt, so even though true love knocks at your door you might never have the balls to open you prefer to run and hide under your blanket, pretending you do not hear.